When a couple or family comes to counselling the focus is on the patterns of behaviour, beliefs or stories that have developed in the couple or family system as well as the wider context in which those attending live. The aim is to understand the dynamics of the couple or family system and to introduce new ideas, and facilitate different ways of being together that helps family members tackle and overcome the particular difficulties they are experiencing. With this approach all those involved with the ‘problem’ are encouraged to attend therapy. Young children, less able to use words, are involved in the process through creative means.